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    Post-holiday blues?

    Post-holiday blues?

    First of all, yes I know we still have New Year to go, but this is really bugging me.

    I've had this really strange, kind-of-sad feeling since Christmas Day.

    I really look forward to Christmas every year. I'm not religious, but the other aspects really appeal to me - the lights, the music, looking round the shops in the run-up to Christmas (quite something for a 32-year-old British man to admit!), the whole atmosphere fills me with joy. I even like the TV ads!

    I almost enjoy the build-up more than the event itself.

    This year was different because my partner and I moved into our new home only on December 3 - so Christmas preparations were, to say the least, a mad rush. It's been a really stressful time (in a good, buying-a-new-house way, I suppose!) and Christmas shopping really took a backseat to moving house.

    We had a lot of stuff to buy and, of course, the shops were filled with Christmas cheer. I played my Christmas music in the car during the shopping trips, and we finally had everything where we wanted it in the house. We also picked up some decorations, which I'll be sorry to take down.

    So we only really got to Christmas-specific shopping a few days before. Luckily we knew what we wanted and where to get it, and we did presents last Saturday morning and food on Saturday afternoon.

    Christmas Day itself was idyllic - presents in the morning for myself, my girlfriend and my stepdaughter (kind of special as I've bought us all the new house, the two of them were in a rented association property before), then a relative came round and joined us for a fantastic dinner. I also enjoyed the night - or so I'm told, I've not been drinking much lately so by the time I sat down for evening TV I was ready to crash out, I have no drink tolerance at the moment!

    The next day, more family came round, we put on a buffet, my oldest schoolfriend came to visit for the night, and we had some beers. From Thursday 27th I started working four night shifts (just in the middle of my last one - it's quiet as I'm sure you can tell ).

    Anyway, sorry to rant on, but every year without fail, after Christmas Day is over, for some reason I can't listen to Christmas music, watch Christmas movies, and feel very down. It's like someone flicks a switch and puts me into "holiday blues" mode.

    It's really not a nice feeling. It's like I want all the decorations gone, but at the same time I'm totally dreading the act of taking them down after New Year.

    I don't know if it's nostalgia for Christmases past or just that I've enjoyed myself and am sorry it's over. A really strange, hard-to-describe feeling.

    Sorry for the rant guys.

    I hope you all had a great Christmas and wish you a happy, prosperous New Year for 2013.

    Back to work, it'll stop my mind wandering…

    Chris

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    I have the opposite problem - holiday blues. I will feel much better when the holidays are over. I am tired of having santa claus shoved down my thoat by commercial interests.

    It does not speak well of our society's educational level that we are spending 2 months out of every year talking so much about a make believe guy who comes down a chimney in a society where few people have chimney's anymore. The whole thing depresses me greatly, as well as the severe winter weather (which is no picnic).

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    Quote Originally Posted by Phil.Pastel View Post
    It does not speak well of our society's educational level that we are spending 2 months out of every year talking so much about a make believe guy who comes down a chimney in a society where few people have chimney's anymore. The whole thing depresses me greatly, as well as the severe winter weather (which is no picnic).
    I would say that this is the one time of year when people tend to think of others over themselves so maybe make believe isn't such a bad thing?

    Last year was my least favorite x-mas but only because my kids were finally old enough to know that I'm santa. Now I'm 35 and can't wait to have grandkids so I can experience the fun and magic with them again

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    Quote Originally Posted by Dice View Post
    I would say that this is the one time of year when people tend to think of others over themselves so maybe make believe isn't such a bad thing?

    Last year was my least favorite x-mas but only because my kids were finally old enough to know that I'm santa. Now I'm 35 and can't wait to have grandkids so I can experience the fun and magic with them again

    Nah, this was a tough Christmas for my family. My mom passed in September and it wasn't the same without her. I'm just glad it's over.

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    From someone that has been through that most difficult passage with two beloved parents, my thoughts and prayers are with you. The first holiday season is always the most difficult.

    Even today, ten years after my mother passed, I still occasionally find myself reaching for the phone to call her when something great happens in my life. One never completely heals, but in the expanse of time the pain gradually recedes and is overwhelmed and somewhat conquered by the good memories.

    I wish you the best, Phil, and I wish you that warm weather to soothe your spirit.

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    Nah, this was a tough Christmas for my family. My mom passed in September and it wasn't the same without her. I'm just glad it's over.

    Next stop: warmer weather

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    Thanks, Jack. I appreciate that.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Phil.Pastel View Post
    Nah, this was a tough Christmas for my family. My mom passed in September and it wasn't the same without her. I'm just glad it's over.

    Next stop: warmer weather
    Phil...Holidays are always hard when you have lost loved ones. I lost my mom a few years ago and their isn't a day that goes by that I don't think of her in some way, much less a major holiday. Time does help heal all wounds, but it doesn't mean you won't always have a scar. Hang in there and know you are not alone.

    Quote Originally Posted by Heeeere's Olesker! View Post
    I love pretending for two months each year about a make-believe guy coming down a chimney, just as I love the idea of a little fairy coming to replace my daughter's lost tooth with a five dollar bill and an oversized bunny delivering colored eggs and candy once a year. Then again, I've spent my life blissfully adding to the world of make-believe, writing, producing and directing over 1,200 episodes of television and eighteen films and hopefully bringing a few smiles to children and even adults. Yeah, I know it's not the real world...and that's precisely why I love it so.
    Me too! That is my favorite part of the season...pretending. It is a time when we can step back from the stress, hurt, and let-down's of the real world and enjoy the magic of the season.

    Glad to know someone loves Christmas as much as me. I listen to Christmas music, watch Christmas movies, and buy gifts for others ALL YEAR LONG, etc. My wife and I say that when we win the lottery we are going to buy a bigger house and have a Christmas room that stays decorated all year long
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    I am happy it is over! It means I am closer to going back to college for the spring semester. And no more holiday shopping crowds and people bragging about getting/giving presents.
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    My long-term gf broke up with me six days before X-mas. It has sucked, royally. You have it good comparatively.
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    Quote Originally Posted by RockinHard View Post
    My long-term gf broke up with me six days before X-mas. It has sucked, royally. You have it good comparatively.
    So sorry to hear that mate. Sincerely wish you the best for the future.

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    you ever see that Fairly Oddparents episode where Timmy wishes everyday was Christmas?.......yeah, probably not a good idea. However, I'm kinda sad to see Christmas go as well. And Phil.....Santa rocks! That's what makes Christmas magical cause honestly for me anyway it's about the kids. The joy in my son's eyes on Christmas morning is priceless. Wish I could bottle the stuff. I'm actually dreading when he stops believing in magic.

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    I know this feeling oh-so-very-well.

    In many ways I'm a very traditional kind of guy. With a thirteen, ten and four-year old and an Irish-angel-of-a-wife, I go all out for Christmas. We have tons of traditions -- going for the tree the day after Thanksgiving, decorating all three floors of our ninety-year old home to the absolute max, nine wreaths, tons of glittering lights, candles in every single window, always intentionally waiting until the last week before Christmas to do all of our shopping and then doing it in a giddy, chaotic, laugh-filled rush, and, of course, non-stop Christmas music for five weeks.

    On Christmas eve we all go to Mass and then we have a wonderful older couple that always visits as Mr. & Mrs. Santa so our youngest can spy on them in the dim light. Christmas day I won't describe except to say it's amazing. My Kim knows how to do Christmas well.

    Then, five days later, we de-Christmas the house. It's always difficult for me to take the decorations down and box them up for a year. I reflect on how my thirteen year-old was five years old just a year ago it seems. Time goes by so quickly. As I pack things away in the basement I always feel the same distinct pang of sadness in my gut, knowing Christmas is over. Just four more years with my Alex and then he's off to college. Sigh...

    My hope, when I move on to another plain of existence in another forty years (that'll put me at 103, which many longevity calculation programs have put me at ) , is that I'll land in a place where it's Christmas Eve and Christmas Day every night and day. I'd be very happy for that. Being Santa and living at the North Pole would come in a close second.

    The days after Christmas are, in my opinion, the perfect definition of the word 'bittersweet' and so these apparently contradictory icons seem somehow appropriate:
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    Quote Originally Posted by Heeeere's Olesker! View Post
    I know this feeling oh-so-very-well.
    Genuinely moved to hear someone say that, Jack!

    It's the first time I've shared this feeling - I train in Keysi/MMA, which basically means my hobby is getting punched, I like drinking whiskey and watching Saw films... but now I feel a weight has been lifted

    Quote Originally Posted by Heeeere's Olesker! View Post
    The days after Christmas are, in my opinion, the perfect definition of the word 'bittersweet' and so these apparently contrdictory icons seem somehow appropriate:
    Bittersweet - you nailed it there, Jack, that's why it feels so strange. Best to your family for the New Year. I will be spending mine learning to live with two women and a dog.

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    I don’t think it’s unusual at all. I think people like the build-up to events more than the actual event itself. Everyone I’ve ever spoken to about the subject says that when they were a kid they used to prefer Christmas Eve to Christmas Day because of the excitement.

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    Well said Jack. Spare a thought for us folk down in the southern hemisphere who enjoy the Christmas period during the middle of summer!

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