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    Anyone else lost a parent?

    Yesterday (May 24th) marked the 4-year Anniversary of my mom passing away. I was there by her side, taking care of her, and holding her hand when she passed. Even now, 4 years later it is hard, especially since she was the only one I could talk to in my family. My dad, brother, and sister have nothing to do with me

    So, I was just wanting to start this thread to allow others to open up about the loss of a parent (or anyone else that you were close to). Maybe those of us that have experienced such a loss can talk about it and find peace.
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    My father passed away in in 1985, it was and still is one of worst things I have ver gone through as a human being. I keep his memory alive through my collecting MOTU since my Dad was the one responsible for getting it for me and my brother for Christmas in 1982. God do I miss him!

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    Adam03 Thanks for sharing. I feel your pain and am sorry about your loss
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    Getting close to 4 years for myself MOTU MANIAC, since I lost my mom. Just like you with your mom, I was by her side when she passed. Easily the worst thing that can happen to you during the course of your life.

    Nothing really helps but time. I also got a tattoo of her portrait to keep the memories alive.

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    Quote Originally Posted by xBBestx View Post
    Easily the worst thing that can happen to you during the course of your life.
    I totally agree...and sorry for your loss
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    My stepfather passed away February 2009 really unexpectedly. It's been hard for everyone since we all were close to him for over 20 years. His (and my mother's) daughter graduated high school today, and it was difficult because he didn't get to enjoy the moment. It was a glaring hole in the family.

    My father came close to passing away last November. He had severe alcohol withdrawals and a blood infection. The doctor gave him a 25% chance of surviving, but he pulled through. He's still recovering, but probably will never be back to where he was prior to the 36 day hospital stay. Luckily, and against our family's expectations, he has given up drinking. Since the day he was put in, he hasn't had a drop of alcohol. It's a miracle because he drank a pint or more of vodka every day for 30 something years. I attribute a lot of his recovery to him getting prescribed medical marijuana, but that's a topic for another discussion.

    Unfortunately, my mother isn't in great health either. She's fighting Lupus, COPD (yet she never smoked a day in her life), and several other severe health issues. She only weighs 85 pounds, yet she eats like a horse. She out eats me, and I'm 230 lbs. Obviously, I pray that she is with us a long time to come, but in reality, I fear we're in her final years.

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    My father died in 2006. I don't think the pain will ever go away.

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    I appreciate everyone sharing their loss.
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    My father just passed away this morning. Still does not feel real, its an emotional rollercoaster to be sure.
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    Quote Originally Posted by markatisu View Post
    My father just passed away this morning. Still does not feel real, its an emotional rollercoaster to be sure.
    Very sorry to hear that. Everyone in this thread knows exactly how you feel. Sorry for your loss.
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    It’s a little over three years now, since I lost my mother.

    We were very close. They say it gets better in time, and perhaps to some extent that is true; the rawness of the event subsides and nerve endings dull, somewhat. But I can honestly say that not one day goes by which I don’t feel like an integral part of my life is missing. Not one day where I don’t wish with everything I am that could talk with her again.

    My greatest regret in life is that no matter what I do from here on out; no matter what I may or may not achieve, regardless of significance, I can no longer share those events with her.

    I try to keep her memory alive by enjoying the things we used to share. I now cook all the meals she used to, so that I can continue to experience and share them with others, and not simply let them vanish from the world – this has resulted in my becoming quite an accomplished cook. I collect MOTUC, in spite of the tremendous aggravation it causes me, because she is the one who introduced me to He-Man, and enjoyed it as much, if not more than, I did. Every time I receive a new figure I vividly remember the circumstances of us buying the original together and that has great value to me. And, well the list goes on . . . .

    I have since lost a large portion of my remaining family; including my Father, who I had what would be best and most discreetly described as a strained relationship with. Each loss has taken its toll, but none so strongly as my mother, whom I was closest with.

    Quote Originally Posted by markatisu View Post
    My father just passed away this morning. Still does not feel real, its an emotional rollercoaster to be sure.
    I am very sorry to hear this. Please accept my condolences, markatisu.

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    My dad has a heart attack back in '92, when I was 12. He'd been burned in the housefire in '87 and had to get a heart transplant while in the Air Force burn center.
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    My dad passed away 7 years ago and it was such a tragic loss

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    I appreciate everyone sharing their loss on this difficult anniversary. It has been 4 years now since my mom died from COPD. In some ways it seems like an eternity, but in other ways it seems like yesterday. I miss her dearly
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    In November, it will be 7 years since my dad passed away. I would love to say it gets better, but somedays, it's still hard. The thing you gotta remember is no matter where ya go, you carry their love (and your love for them) with you. I have a very strong faith core and I know I'll see him again, but until then there's going to be a bit of sadness, somedays worse than others, but it's still there.

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    Quote Originally Posted by rhea View Post
    I have a very strong faith core and I know I'll see him again....
    I agree and knowing that really helps.
    Sorry for your loss.
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    My dad passed away last December.

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    This coming Sunday it will be 7 years, since my mother died, by alcohol poisoning. Actually her alcoholism was/is the main reason, I personally don't use alcohol at all.

    Also my father's stepmother died exactly one week before that (cancer), so there was two too many funerals for me that summer.

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    My father passed away on the 7th of this past March. I was a little different from everyone else here in that I don't really have a relationship with either of my parents starting from when I was young. It's not like they were bad parents, I was just a weird kid and sought to distance myself from them. When my dad passed I was the first one there. It was very surreal to see him that way. I live only minutes away from him and my mom but I hadn't seen or spoken to him since x-mas.

    The only thing that really broke me down was thinking about his finaicial hardships he's faced. He died of a heart attack which I would say was induced by heavy stress. I can say without a shadow of doubt, that these last 3 years has probably been the worst years of his life. I know I could have done simple things that would have made him happier. And that bothers me.

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    My dad died in a motorcycle accident when I was 9. I don't think i've ever really gotten over it, but with time it has become less painful.

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    My father vanished when I was 10 years old. He is pressumed dead.

    My mom died unexpectedly in her sleep 4-1/2 years ago. She was only 53. That was much harder to take than my dad disappearing. I gave one kickass eulogy at her funeral though.

    It definitely is weird to be as young as I am and have no parents (or parental figures, like grandparents) left. It's like mortality ushered me to the front of the line.

    MOTU_Maniac, one of my closest friends is currently on his deathbed with COPD. (He wants nothing more than to die right now. It breaks my heart.) It's a horrible condition to suffer. I am sorry you and your mom had to go through that.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Teelor View Post
    MOTU_Maniac, one of my closest friends is currently on his deathbed with COPD. (He wants nothing more than to die right now. It breaks my heart.) It's a horrible condition to suffer. I am sorry you and your mom had to go through that.
    You are right, dying from COPD is no way to go. She suffered a slow, painful death where she eventually died from suffocation. I still invision those last moments and they are painful to remember...the struggled breathing....being so weak we had to help her use the bathroom and eat when she could...and her frame lost so much weight that she weighed about 72 pounds when she passed. It is a HORRIBLE way to go!!! So, I hope that any smokers that read this will consider quitting
    Out of the night that covers me,
    Black as the pit from pole to pole,
    I thank whatever gods may be
    For my unconquerable soul.

    It matters not how strait the gate,
    How charged with punishments the scroll,
    I am the master of my fate,
    I am the captain of my soul.

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    I lost my mother in 97 and my father in 02. I came from a very disfunctional home where the abuse came from my mother and my father did nothing. I was sad at her passing but then it was a mix of emotions because I still hate her for all the crap she put me through. I was really indifferent when my dad passed away. He never did anything to me directly, but I was never really close to him.

    My parents never spoke the truth about anything. I can say that I never knew my mother or father even though I lived with them. The faces they put on in public was completely different than what was behind closed doors. I can't recall one time any one of them said they ever loved me.

    It's a mixed bag for me now thinking about their deaths. People bring them up and speak of how kind and generous they were and I bite my tongue because part of me hopes their burning in hell.
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    Closest thing of a parent I had passed was my stepmother in 2002. Though I was sad and upset at the time. I was also happy to have her out of my life. She divided up my family and stole my father away from us. I can't remember the any good times only the emotional torture she put me and my brother through.

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    Quote Originally Posted by seth-man View Post
    Closest thing of a parent I had passed was my stepmother in 2002. Though I was sad and upset at the time. I was also happy to have her out of my life. She divided up my family and stole my father away from us. I can't remember the any good times only the emotional torture she put me and my brother through.
    With all due respect, she "stole" your father? Did he not have a say?
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